Self-Care: The good kind of selfish

Prioritize Self-Car
I haven’t had any time for yoga. Work has been crazy!
There’s not enough time in the day to do everything that I need to do.
I don’t have time for self-care. I’m too busy.

Does this sound familiar?

Women around the world are struggling to squeeze a few more hours out of each day. There’s just not enough time, right? Wrong. We live in a society that glorifies being busy. We view busy-ness as a symbol of hard work, commitment, engagement, and success. We work 40-80 hours a week, attend graduate school, take care of families, volunteer for community organizations, call our representatives (because 2017 is weird), meet friends for drinks, eat on-the-go, and rush around all day long until we return home to binge watch netflix until we fall asleep on the couch. This leaves us feeling exhausted, stressed out, and on-edge – completely overworked, over-committed, disengaged from our bodies and emotions.
Being busy doesn’t create success, whatever that means to you. It does, however, create really full schedules, joy-sucking obligations, and long ass days full of shit you don’t want to do. Not exactly the hard work, commitment, and success you’ve been dreaming of – I know.
Are you ready to have more “me time?” Are you tired of all the stress, anxiety, and negativity? Do you want to experience joy, ease, optimism, and whole-body wellness each and every day? Well, the answer has been in front of you all along… take care of yourself. Rest when you are tired. Say “no” when you want to say “no.” Eat when you are hungry. Slow down. Breathe deep. Take a shower. Move your body…. You already know all of this.
We know that the answer to stress relief is to prioritize things that actually relieve us of our stress, yet we continue rushing around (stressed out) claiming that we don’t have time for such self-indulgent activities. WTF?!
I say “we” because I do this too – all the time. I get too busy to call my mom, snuggle with my boyfriend, go for a walk, and meet a friend for tea. Somehow, I get far too busy to do these things that bring joy into my life. You see, we convince ourselves that self-care activities are selfish. Truthfully, we are not wrong. Self-care is wildly selfish – in beautiful, soul-soothing ways. The word selfish is defined as lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure. When you take the time for self-care, you are doing something just for you with your chief concern being the profit and pleasure of increased ease, joy, appreciation, and love of self and others. If this is wrong – I don’t want to be right.

Self-care is the good kind of selfish.

In order to break free from the cycle of stress, anxiety, and negativity you have to take care of yourself. You must prioritize your own well-being just as you would prioritize a business meeting, doctor’s appointment, or work deadline. If you truly want to experience the pleasures of daily joy and ease, self-care is non-negotiable.
I have created a radical new way to reorganize our lives so that self-care is a priority and not just another thing we’ll get around to when we have some free time. This month’s Tribe Member resource tool is Prioritize Self-Care: A guide to reorganize your life and create time for soul-soothing self-care. In this guide, I will walk you through my own personal process for prioritizing self-care daily, weekly, and monthly. You will also have the opportunity to set one BIG self-care goal for the year. The entire process is personalized, so you pick the self-care activities that work best for you.
This guide is available to Tribe Member’s only. Become a Tribe Member today to access the Self-Care Guide and other body love action guides, tools, & resources.

Become a Tribe Member HERE. Once you’ve done so, contact us HERE to let us you you want a copy of our Self-Care Guide!


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  • Collen Reynolds

    Joy sucking obligations and long ass days filled with shit I don’t wanna do. Sure does sound familiar. Thank you for the reminder Brandy that we need to slow down, breathe deep, eat if we’re hungry, rest if we’re tired. I did just that yesterday, (Sunday). I wished I had done more but I was just too tired to care. That caring really is over rated sometimes. 🙂 I always try to done thing just for myself each day. The more I give myself peace, joy and rest the more peaceful and joyful my interactions with others and the responsibilities I do need to attend to. It’s a win/win.